TEENAGE EDUCATION AND CHARACTER BUILDING – A REPORT OF THE APPLICATION OF HYPNOPARENTING METHOD

Recently many adolescents have not received adequate character education either in their families or school environments and probably even both; it is to say that the result shows delinquent behaviors occurred among adolescents. In regards to these environments, there are other aspects may influence such behaviors, and to name a few, we have technology in hand. Technology and the Internet give us access to sufficient information – due to its nature is accessible to many both advantages and disadvantages. These two-sided effects, however, are possible to control and minimize if proposed actions are taken to achieve the maximum benefits for building strong characters in adolescents. This writing reports the predetermined actions that took place in a community group (Rukun Warga or RW) in Cibereum, in the district of Cisarua, Bogor. It focuses on the members of Family Welfare Movement or Pemberdayaan dan Kesejahateraan Keluarga (PKK); the members are mothers with young children and adolescents of the community group. The program used in encouraging and raising awareness of the PKK members was a hypnoparenting method in their parenting style. At the end of the program, the PKK members could apply the skills learned throughout the program into their parenting practices.


INTRODUCTION
Recently adolescents have not received adequate character education either in their families or school environments and probably even both; it is to say that the result shows delinquent behaviors occurred among adolescents.In regards to these environments, there are other aspects may influence such behaviors, and to name a few, we have technology in handboth advantages and disadvantages.These two-sided effects, however, are possible to control if proposed actions are taken to maximize the benefits of building strong characters in adolescents.
Family and formal education are a duo key element in building strong characters in teens these days.Rather than aiming schools or teachers for this kind of responsibility, we focus on another important institution in the construction of strong character, i.e. family.Family serves the basis of education in these teens.Thus it can be said that parents and home environment should be able to nurture and shape strong characters.The parents are the closest role models for modeling good virtues among their children before the education they receive in schools and from the teachers.However, each parent has different parenting style which makes each individual becomes unique.The uniqueness of each family should be preserved, but it is also possible to 82 make room for improvement in parenting style suitable to the needs of the children in their way to their adulthood.Therefore, it is true to say that family plays a major role in creating comfort and feeling safe in these teenagers (Panuju and Umami, 1999: 156).
Achieving this goal, the team conducted a program to be applied to the members of Family Welfare Movement or Pemberdayaan dan Kesejahateraan Keluarga (PKK) movement whose members are stay-at-home mothers living in a community group (RW) 10 in Cibereum village, Bogor.PKK members are the most suitable selection for this program as this group represents mother figures in the family.These mother figures play a major role in children development as they spend more hours and efforts in doing house chores and raising the children, while father figures represent the bread winner of the family who does not often stay longer at home compared to the mother figures.The program is set to make use of hypnoparenting which will eventually affect parenting style to adolescents at home resulting in a strong character and better school performance.Furthermore, one of PKK Principal Program is to encourage skills and education of the community, and this made the hypnoparenting program conducted suits to their needs.

THEORETICAL FRAMEWORK
Hypnoparenting method is one of the methods applied to overcome children's temper tantrum by infusing positive suggestions into children's subconscious mind.However, in this program hypnoparenting was implemented to explore good emotion on teenagers, so they are ready to build stronger and positive character in the process of growing to be adults in later years.Alongside with hypnoparenting, there are also numerous studies on the application of hypnosis in education, i.e.Hypno teaching due to its effectiveness in students' ability to comprehend lessons and be able to focus and concentrate during the lesson.Indonesian Association of Clinical Hypnotheraphist (2010) says that the benefits of applying hypnoparenting method will result in more calm and positive children, effective in overcoming temper tantrum.Afterward, the Literature Review discusses the need for parents to acknowledge their parenting style first hand before moving to the next stage, that is hypnosis.Knowing parenting style will equip these mothers to choose any actions needed for their teenagers while adjusting to family lifestyle and another parent's parenting style.
Parenting style is considered as a mirror of parents' attempt to control and manage their children social interaction (Baumrind, as cited in Darling, 1999).The attempt has two points to define what parenting style is, namely "the parenting style is meant to describe normal variations in parenting" and "…normal parenting revolves around issues of control."(Darling, 1999: 2).Baumrind took into account of obstructive parenting behavior resulting in abusive homes and the like, including abandoned homes and children.Primary concern upon the parenting style to be explored is how parents have influence over their children.Therefore, it should be useful for their homes and upbringing of their children.The upbringing of these children revolves around the home environment and school environment, especially when their teen years.This developmental period often put both parents and their teens into a stressfuland highly unlikely, into a depressive condition.Educators such as school teachers also took part in these teen developmental period.Henceforth, understanding parenting style can help parents and teachers to provide the basis of healthy parenting stylewith the goal to impact the children so that they are ready for the present and future social life.A typology of four parenting styles based upon two parenting behavior aspects, namely control and warmth (Maccoby and Martin, 1983): 1. Indulgent.This type of parenting style is often associate with more permissive or nondirective behaviors or practices.They are "…more responsive than they are demanding.They are nontraditional and lenient, do not require mature behavior, allow considerable self-regulation, and avoid confrontation (Baumrind, 1991: 62).
2. Authoritarian parenting style is highly demanding and directive, but not responsive.Baumrind (1991: 62) mentions that "they are obedienceand status-oriented, and expected their orders to be obeyed without explanation."3. Authoritative.Authoritative parents are warm yet firm.They teach their children to be independent but within certain limits and controls.The parents are parents who "…monitor and impart clear standards for their children's conduct.They are assertive, but not intrusive and restrictive.Their disciplinary methods are supportive, rather than punitive.They want their children to be assertive as well as socially responsible, and self-regulated as well as cooperative" (Baumrind, 1991: 62).
4. Uninvolved parents are parents who do not require any demands on their children.They have minimum interaction time to the point of neglecting their children.As a result, teens with uninvolved and indulgent parenting styles often show misconduct and "impulsive behaviors due to issues with self-regulation" (Kopko, 2007: 3).
Acknowledge parenting styles for parents and educators does not cover the practice and their consequences to achieve a sustainable present and future social life of these teens.Being aware of other aspects that can bring differences in these teens are things such as gender, ethnicity, family typethis includes the parenting style of each parent may differ to one another which may create conflicts if there is no adjustment is made.In making the adjustment work efficiently at home, parents can start to adapt their parenting style(s) to one or two parenting methods suitable for their homes and teens.Distinguishing parenting style is the first step to analyze and evaluate these parents' parenting style.Next step is to determine the best and suitable method(s) to apply in such situation.There have been many parenting methods offered these days; some of them relate parenting style with technology development and psychologybased method.One of them is hypnoparenting method.This approach is said to be "…a natural effort to instill positive program to the children's subconscious mind, by which the children have good behavior… [it] is a science that combines knowledge of children education and hypnosis" (Nadia, as cited in Astuti, 2012: 27).Hypnoparenting derives from the word hypnosis and parenting.Hypnosis itself has been used as a tool for research by psychologists, cognitive neuroscientists, and medical researchers.According to Jamieson ( 2007) "hypnosis itself is an example of a wider human capacity to experience temporary but profound, alterations in conscious experience which are personally and socially valued" (p.8).Combining these two purposes will enable parents to help themselves and their children to alter unusual conditions and behavior for better results in the future.Hypnosis and parenting aim to calm in any parenting situations, so they become more manageable and calm (Machenberg, 2005).
According to Nadia (as cited in Astuti, 2012; 28) hypnoparenting method includes several steps such as (1) pre-induction, (2) induction, (3) transhypnosist calibration, (4) suggestion, (5) posthypnotic suggestion, and (6) termination.Pre-induction phase is a preparation for parents and teen submerge into a relax environment, then the parent can move on to induction phase where the main process of hypnotic method takes place.When the teen is in a relaxed condition both mind and body, it is a good start to enter induction phase by bringing the brain wave from Beta wave (12-25 Hz) to Alpha wave (8-12 Hz).Alpha wave is the bridge from conscious mind to subconscious mind.Transhypnosist calibration is a stage where a person enters a trance condition, then suggestion stage is ready to be calibrated by giving positive sentences to their teenagers' subconscious mind.Posthypnotic suggestion is a kind of suggestion given in a conscious condition.Last phase is the termination phase where building positive suggestions make the teenagers feel relax and fresh ready to enter their real conscious state.

RESEARCH METHODOLOGY
Selection of partners is based on the needs of the PKK to overcome the problems in their adolescent children to repair and maintain the character values that have been ingrained since childhood.The approach of these community service activities is through team presentations and demonstrations the use of hypnoparenting.There are twenty participants of Cibereum PKK members available to participate in the hypnoparenting program.These are the stay-at-home mothers with young children and teenagers who live in RW 10, Cisarua-Bogor.
The team first had to inform the head of Cibereum administrative village, and then when the team obtained the permit to conduct the program, it was possible to recruit the participants